Divorce is seldom good news for a family. However, mediation is a good tool to make things as stress-free as possible. When two people have come to the mutual decision to part, it makes little sense to go to a courtroom. Instead, they can work out their disagreements respectfully, even when they are not necessarily getting along in their daily lives. This is also a better solution for couples that have children.

Even if the two parents are not seeing eye to eye, working things out with a mediator can be a great first step in working together. This can translate into a long term skill with one another that will make parenting all the easier after the divorce is finalized. However, there are also more selfish reasons to choose mediation. Those who go through a mediator have a much higher chance of each party getting what they want through negotiation.

It can be tempting to bring your soon-to-be ex-spouse to court and drag them through the mud. However, by compromising and trying to work together, you can leave the marriage on a better note where both parties get something they want out of the deal. There are a few easy tips that can make these proceedings go much smoother for both parties.

1. If you have kids together, be sure to put their interests first. Even if your husband had an affair or your wife was abusive toward you, remember this is your child’s other parent. Of course, if your child is better off not seeing the other parent, that is another interest to consider, but be sure it is based on your child’s health and happiness as opposed to your own interests.
2. Respect your separated spouse’s point of view, even when it is difficult. If you feel they are being unreasonable, consider why they might be behaving in such a manner. This can lead to quicker solutions and less contention.
3. Avoid talking about what you deserve under the law or what settlement you hope to achieve. The mediator’s job is to run through your legal entitlements and work in the best interest of both parties so you can focus on staying amicable and try to compromise for the sake of the family.
4. Be friendly. It’s the simplest tip but might also be the most important. While you are ending a marriage, you did have a marriage for the time beforehand. Remember your spouse is still the person you married and that friendliness will get a better outcome for both sides.
5. Gather all information and documents ahead of time and be sure to hand them in prior to the actual mediation. This will help the mediator become best prepared and work in a positive direction due to proper preparation.
6. It is easier said than done but staying in a calm state of mind will aid making the right decisions for yourself and your family.

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