What to do When Divorce Seems Inevitable

Every marriage has its ups and downs, but if you get the sense that you’ve gone beyond bickering and divorce seems inevitable, it’s important for you to know what to do to protect yourself. It doesn’t matter whether you are the one who will be initiating the divorce or if you’re anticipating your spouse calling it quits — sitting down and acting rationally and logically will make an enormous difference in your sense of confidence and security in the days that lie ahead. Here are our top recommendations for steps you should take as soon as you sense that divorce is on the horizon.

  • Start making lists of assets. Before things start to disappear or your access to them will be blocked, collect as much information as you can about your marital assets and liabilities. This means taking photos of appraisals; scanning, downloading, or copying paystubs, checkbooks, and account statements; and photographing belongings ranging from jewelry to automobiles to collectible antiques. Anything that can be argued about, spirited away, or sold should be included. Keep your list someplace safe and inaccessible to your spouse.
  • Make sure that you have credit cards and financial accounts in your own name. If all of your checkbook and credit cards are jointly held, you need to open up your own accounts as quickly as possible. It is important for you to have your own credit history and the ability to spend or save money on your own.
  • Determine how much cash you have available, and how much you will need. It’s easy to get used to having access to shared accounts, but once you’re in the midst of a divorce everything changes. You will need money to pay for your everyday expenses, as well as for those that are involved in your divorce. Knowing exactly how much money you need may also be immediately important if you’re seeking support during your separation. You will need to know what expenses are essential and which can be eliminated.
  • Remain as calm and unemotional as possible. Divorce is extremely painful, and it is easy to say rash things or make poor decisions in a moment of anger, frustration, or fear. Take a deep breath before making any significant statements or choices.

The most important thing you can do for yourself if you are approaching divorce is to consult an experienced lawyer who can help you navigate the process. To set up a time to discuss your situation, contact our office today.